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  • Writer's pictureJ.Yuhas

Why Blasting Messages to Professional Connections is Costing You Opportunities

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In today's interconnected world, networking and building professional relationships are paramount to success. We all want to make meaningful connections, seek opportunities, and advance in our careers. However, there's a common networking faux pas that's costing many people the opportunities they seek – blasting messages to professional connections.

Keep reading to find out why this approach is ineffective and how it can be detrimental to your professional reputation. And, more importantly, how you can respond to those who keep blasting your inbox without blocking them or losing your inner peace.

When someone blasts an influx of messages without a single reply, here is what they are telling you:

1. There is a Lack of Emotional Intelligence

One of the primary reasons why blasting messages to professional connections is counterproductive is the lack of emotional intelligence involved. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our emotions or actions. It plays a crucial role in building relationships and effective communication.

If someone is sending a barrage of messages without considering the recipient's perspective or need for services/products, then they are lacking social etiquette and awareness. This lack of awareness can be detrimental to relationships and hinder networking efforts because the receiving party will view these messages as desperate or intrusive. Successful networking is about building authentic connections, not bombarding others with self-serving messages.

2. There is a Failure to Connect

Blasting messages often reflects a self-serving approach to networking. Instead of trying to understand the needs and goals of your connections, this method prioritizes your own agenda. Professional relationships should be mutually beneficial, where both parties find value and support in the connection.

Focusing solely on your needs can alienate potential collaborators and partnerships - losing their attention before they even get a chance to respond. Successful networking is about finding common ground and building trust over time through authentic interactions, like a game of tennis. There is a rhythmic exchange back and forth with a harmonizing balance in exchanges of stories and topics without one person monopolizing the connection. It's not a transactional process but a path to building valuable connections. While not everyone will be a good fit in business, genuine connections act as a referral source to someone else who is a better fit.

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3. Message Flooding is a Manipulation Tactic

Message flooding is used to get other people’s attention. But many times this fails because we all know attention is cheap. When someone bombards others with floods of messages, It can leave the recipient feeling anxious, stressed, and emotionally manipulated.

Some individuals may use flooding to intentionally pressure others into responding quickly or complying with their requests. Yet, such manipulation and coercion can be damaging to professional relationships and erode trust before there is even a chance to build it.

If you have learned this approach as a sales gimmick to get others to reply, it’s time to cut it out of your approach. Not only have you turned away a potential customer, but you have also created twice the amount of work for yourself when you could have sent half the amount of messages building a genuine connection. If people want to do business with you or need your services, then they will take an interest in you as well. One-sided relationships do not produce revenue.

Setting Healthy Professional Boundaries

Now that we've highlighted the problems associated with blasting messages, it's essential to know how to protect yourself from this behavior. Here are some healthy boundaries to set if you find yourself bombarded with messages from a connection:

  • Establish Response Time: Communicate your preferred response time to the sender. Let them know that you value thoughtful responses and that you'll get back to them within a reasonable timeframe.

  • Use Filters: Utilize messaging filters or folders to organize your communications. This can help you prioritize and manage messages effectively.

  • Disconnect if Necessary: If the situation persists and becomes overwhelming, don't hesitate to disconnect or disengage from the connection. Your well-being should always be a top priority.

Phrases you can reply with:

  • Thank you for reaching out. It seems we have different communication preferences and approaches to connecting. I value productivity. How can we cease the influx of messages?

  • It appears there is a disconnect in communication with the constant influx of messages I’m receiving. I don’t feel we are a good fit. All the best.

  • I am not interested in your services. Please remove me from your email list.

  • No, thank you.

In conclusion, networking is about building authentic relationships, understanding the needs of others, and offering support where possible. Blasting messages to professional connections not only fails to achieve these goals but can also damage your reputation. By recognizing the importance of emotional intelligence, practicing empathy, and setting healthy boundaries, you can navigate the networking atmosphere more effectively and open doors to meaningful opportunities. Remember, quality always trumps quantity when it comes to building professional relationships.

Needing further assistance with professional boundaries internally or externally within your organization? Let’s hop on a brief Call and see how we can assist your organization’s growth.


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